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Part 2: DEFINE THE DREAM | Permission Granted : How to Create the Life You Want to Live

Before we go on, I’m going to ask an important question.

If you already have kids, then you can skip this next paragraph ūüėČ You already know about the sacrifices they require and you’re still here, nurturing that flame in your soul. I applaud you.

But if you don’t have children…do you want them? I mean REALLY want them? Because having them will cut down the time you’re able to invest in your dreams by a good 90%, for quite awhile. If you can afford help or your kids are already on the older side, this won’t be the case. I know plenty of moms that juggle it all like a boss, so obviously it’s possible.

My point is this:

Don’t have children just because society or anyone in your life has made you think you “should”…or because you think its the ‘next natural step’…or because you just want to see what they would look/be like…or because you think it will save your relationship.¬† If you feel like ‘something’s missing’ but you can’t quite figure out what it is…

It’s likely your connection with your Self. Listen to Her instead.

 

The world doesn’t need more people. The world needs YOU, in your destined role, as your highest Self, doing the thing that only you are capable of doing in the way that you are capable of doing it.¬†

 

Now¬†that¬†that’s¬†out¬†of¬†the¬†way‚Ķ
Let’s¬†get¬†back¬†to¬†the¬†Thing.
Do you know your thing?
Do¬†you¬†know¬†you¬†have¬†a¬†thing,¬†but¬†you¬†haven’t¬†figured¬†out¬†what¬†it¬†is¬†yet?

Has your thing been living in your mind your entire life and you’re just grown accustomed to keeping her on a shelf for ‘someday’ or ‘when you have time’?

Or has your thing been desperately screaming to get out for years and for some reason you can’t bring yourself to open the door? (That’s what mine was doing. Good times.)

There are so many ways to learn about the Thing.

If, like me, you want to put a question like “what the eff am I supposed to be doing with my life?” into Google and have it produce an instant answer…I understand completely.

Since Buzzfeed quizzes don’t get too deep, let me make a few suggestions.

If¬†you¬†haven’t¬†taken¬†the¬†full-form¬†real¬†Myers-Briggs¬†assessment,¬†I¬†recommend¬†doing¬†it.

take the official myers-briggs test

I’ve come back to this test several times over the years, and it has been useful in many ways. I’ve even had potential employers request it. Also, your results change as you change, staying relevant.

I also recommend the Gallup Strengths Finder, 

 

and the Primary and Secondary Archetype tests by Cerries Mooney.

And¬†of¬†course,¬†go¬†ahead¬†and¬†do¬†a¬†bunch¬†of¬†shit¬†that¬†you¬†don’t¬†like¬†doing¬†and¬†work¬†for¬†various¬†assholes¬†to¬†get¬†an¬†idea¬†of¬†what¬†ISN’T¬†the¬†thing.
Wanting to re-enact any scene from Office Space, yet refraining, is good for developing self-awareness, humility and patience.
Once¬†you’ve¬†done¬†all¬†that,¬†it’s¬†time¬†to¬†listen.

Yes, LISTEN.

To¬†your¬†Self,¬†to¬†your¬†intuition,¬†to¬†your¬†soul,¬†whatever¬†you’ve¬†named¬†her.

Art by Mae Chevrette, Quote by Steve Jobs

It’s true.
You came here with a purpose. But we forget what that purpose is sometimes, and the universe leaves us a trail of bread crumbs until we remember.
If you haven’t remembered yet, that is fine. Keep reading. Your thing will come to you when it is time.

 

6 HELPFUL QUESTIONS TO ASK YOURSELF WHILE DEFINING THE THING:

If money were no concern, what would my day look like?

What do I enjoy doing more than anything? When do I lose myself?

How do I best express myself? Through words? Through food? Through art? Through helping others?

What¬†do¬†other¬†people¬†tell¬†me¬†I’m¬†good¬†at?

When do I feel most confident?

Do I like to be around people or on my own?

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Why Following Your Calling is the Best Thing You Can Do for the World

You want to save the world, don’t you.

And if you can’t save it, you want to at least change it for the better.

I feel you.

I used to think the best way to do this was via degrees in human services and nonprofit leadership, a stint in the Peace Corps, and various other direct service roles.

While I cannot express enough love and gratitude for those years, I never found a situation in which I was fulfilled.

It always came back to the art.

Since the first time I squeezed paint out of a tube with my tiny toddler hands.

It’s never left.

The many attempts at funding art school failed, leaving me to think that wasn’t what I was supposed to be doing with my life after all.

So into the rat race I dove, only painting when I wasn’t hammering out 30-page papers while pounding red bull and crying.

Fast forward 7 years, and I’m a blissed out newlywed living in the desert and dealing with the single most wretched disaster of a boss that I’ve ever had.

Like, holy fuck. This guy. I started to think that my friend Garland was right 5 years before…maybe I wasn’t meant to work for other people.

So one day I get home after my hour commute into the sun across the 50-shades-of-brown city that is Phoenix…I can’t get my pants off and pour that wine fast enough.

Husband rolls in looking like we just won the fucking lottery.

“We’re moving to England, baby!”

I scream/wail/collapse into sobbing tears of pure unadulterated joy for 20 minutes.

Ugly crying. Seriously.

Get to England, find myself in a situation with zero opportunity to work in my field.

Ok, universe. I get it.

Thank you.

Opened shop in 2012 and will never look back.

I know this seems like I’m getting off track. But I had to give you a bit of the back story.

It was a scary-ass decision to allow myself to be dependent on my husband while I was making the transition to running my own shit. But given the situation, it was a no-brainer.

And now, life is epic as fuck, for both of us.

I’m living my¬†dream.

And being in this state of mind for the past few years has made me realize that this is how we’re meant to feel.¬† We’re not meant to be miserable and feel lost for our whole lives.

We’re meant to listen to that calling.

 

Whatever it is.

Because if we have something in us at the soul level, it was put there for a reason.

It was put there because you are meant to bring that thing into the world.

Changing the world in a way that only you can.

Isn’t that the most epic way to honor your soul?

To thank the universe?

To pursue your calling to the best of your ability?

Imagine what you could achieve when you are moving with the universe instead of against it.

Imagine what ripples you could start by unburying the treasures that live inside you.

Your potential is unlimited.

 

The more of you maximizing your potential and fulfilling your purpose, the more light you emit.

The more happiness.

The more joy, the more love you are bringing into the world.

You want to change the world? Listen to your calling.

 

So tell me in the comments below.

What is it? What is your thing?

The thing that has been patiently (or not so patiently) been living in you for longer than you can remember?

Are you listening to it?

I want to know.