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Part 5: DRAW THE MAP & GET TO WORK | Permission Granted : How to Create the Life You Want to Live

Once you can see the dream, you have to plan the route to get there.

Don’t worry, this doesn’t mean you have to plot every last detail rightthisminute. That doesn’t work anyway. But you need to know what you want to move toward.

In order to move forward, we must take the actual steps. What those steps are will depend entirely on what your dream looks like.

Not one successful person woke up where they are now. They started from the beginning. So we’re going to work backwards here.

What is your dream?

What do you fantasize about doing?

What do you want to be known for?

What do you want to spend your life doing and would still do even if you had endless money? Can you see it?

Now, what steps do you need to take to get there?

What is the FIRST step? It doesn’t have to be huge! It can be one little thing that you can do RIGHT NOW to get even an inch closer to your goal.

And if you haven’t already, this means it’s time to…

get organized.

There are a ton out there, but I’m going to recommend my #1 favorite organizational tool of all time; the Passion Planner by Angelia Trinidad. (This is not an advertisement, I’m just deeply obsessed with the Passion Planner and the impact it has had on my life.)

 

This amazing, supple book, when used correctly, will turn you into a productivity powerhouse. For real.

You can plot your entire LIFE in this thing and you will get. shit. DONE.

Click here to explore the epicness that is the Passion Planner!

Until your planner arrives, (you can also print out the free PDFs while you wait!) …

What can you do RIGHT NOW that will move you one step closer to your goal than you were yesterday?

What are some things you can stop buying? (lattes, meals out, impulsive purchases, etc.)

What distracts you and wastes your time? (scrolling on social media, dramatic/negative friends/family, etc.)

What is your current morning routine? What is your IDEAL morning routine?

How about your ideal day? Write it down, from when you wake up until you go to bed.

Once you have a visual of your plan, it is time to get to work.

Visualization leads to manifestation. But not without putting in the work in the meantime.

WARNING:

The thing isn’t going to be easy.
The thing will require sacrificedisciplinesweat and tears.
The thing will require commitmentpassion and patience.
The thing will require focus & consistency.

The one and only way to get the thing is daily action.

You can’t just visualize and dream about the thing.

You have to work on moving toward the thing every single day.

If you miss a day, you check yourself and get back to it the next day.

All WHILE visualizing the thing, and thinking about how amazing you’re going to feel when you have the thing.

When you take consistent baby steps toward the thing, you cannot help but end up at the thing.

This means you have to SHOW UP. To the easel, to the table, to the desk. To wherever it is that you get the shit done that needs to get done to get closer to the thing.
It took me awhile to get a handle on this one.
As you creatives know, sometimes you feel the need to ‘wait for inspiration’ to create.
Try ignoring that, and just show up.
This requires discipline.

Self-discipline is hard.

Trust me, I know.
You want to know the trick to self-discipline?
A serious schedule.
Now, I’m not talking about a schedule that’s all packed with a bunch of the bullshit I was talking about purging in the last section.
I’m talking about a schedule that is written in accordance with your goals.

As in, you schedule your priorities FIRST and everything else either falls in line or falls OFF the schedule. No excuses.

CLICK HERE FOR AN EXAMPLE!

The Schedule to Get to the Thing is an epic level game changer. But it isn’t enough just to make the schedule.
You have to implement the schedule. You have to stick to it. You have to COMMIT.
Because committing to the schedule is committing to The Thing.

And committing to The Thing is committing to yourself, your dreams, your goals…to your ideal life.

 

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Part 4: MAKE ROOM | Permission Granted : How to Create the Life You Want to Live

So now that you know your thing – or at least know that you want to figure out your thing  – how bad do you want it?
How bad do you want to wake up every day EXCITED about what lies ahead?
How bad do you want to be living the dream?
YOUR dream?
Seriously, how bad?
Are you willing to give some shit up? To make some sacrifices? Take some risks?

Your dream won’t become reality overnight.
It won’t appear as a result of endless hoping.
It won’t become reality by talking about it.
It will take discipline and sacrifice.
It will take commitment and scheduling of your time.
It will take CONSISTENT effort and hard work.

And that means cutting some bullshit out of your current lifestyle and routine.
You must declutter your life and make ROOM for the awesomeness.
What that means will be specific to you.

We all have the same 24 hours to work with.

It could be that you need to remove some negative, angry, toxic or dramatic people from your life.
If you can’t remove them, minimize contact as much as you can to decrease the influence of their grey cloud of doom and chaos on your energy and life. And do not feel guilty about it.

It could be that you need to physically get organized. Time spent looking for shit is time wasted. If you don’t know how to go about that, I bet you know someone who is an organizational nerd – beg them to teach you the way. They love to organize shit for people. Trust me, I’m one of them.

It could be that you’re spread too thin and need to learn to say no. If you’re spending any of your precious time doing something you don’t look forward to and it isn’t required for any reason, then quit that shit.

It could be that you need to get your finances organized. Quit being impulsive and buying useless shit for yourself and others.  Quit feeling like you have to buy every person you know birthday and Christmas presents every year if you can’t actually afford it. Just tell them you love them, make them dinner…it’ll be alright.

Figure out where your money is going and where it could stop going. Every dollar spent on frivolous shit could be funding your dream.

This book changed my life, and finally made me feel in control of my finances. Pick it up and implement the system, you’ll feel much better.

 

It could be that you need to get your health in order. It’s truly amazing how the simple acts of eating well and daily exercise will change your life.

Quality over quantity – this applies to most of the important things in life. Relationships, time, food…the list goes on.

Whatever it is in your life that’s sucking up your time and brain power in a negative way, work on getting rid of it. That is time and brain power that could be fueling your dream.

Are you a talker, a dreamer, a thinker, a visionary? Awesome.

But are you also a DOER?

Because no one else is going to do this shit for you.

You literally and figuratively cannot rely on anyone else to create the life you want or to bring you the happiness that would come with living your dream.

Other people contribute in many ways, but you are ultimately responsible for your life.  No one else.
No one is working to make your dreams come true, they are working on their own dreams.

You have to take the action. YOU.

There are many potential obstacles and just as many potential solutions to what could be blocking you from taking action.

DIG DEEPER

Some helpful questions to ask yourself, depending on your situation:

Can you work part-time?

How about if you make a strict budget and cut some of the afore-mentioned shit out? Then could you work part time?

If you’re a couple, can you make it on one income temporarily?

Can you move somewhere with a lower cost of living?

Can you share living expenses with a friend in a similar situation?

Can you hang with your parents or a sibling/family member for awhile?

Think about long term happiness and what kind of sacrifices are possible and worth it for you.

But remember, it is YOU that has to make the decisions and sacrifices necessary to create your ideal life.

YOU are responsible for your own happiness and life.

ONLY YOU.

 

 

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Part 2: DEFINE THE DREAM | Permission Granted : How to Create the Life You Want to Live

Before we go on, I’m going to ask an important question.

If you already have kids, then you can skip this next paragraph 😉 You already know about the sacrifices they require and you’re still here, nurturing that flame in your soul. I applaud you.

But if you don’t have children…do you want them? I mean REALLY want them? Because having them will cut down the time you’re able to invest in your dreams by a good 90%, for quite awhile. If you can afford help or your kids are already on the older side, this won’t be the case. I know plenty of moms that juggle it all like a boss, so obviously it’s possible.

My point is this:

Don’t have children just because society or anyone in your life has made you think you “should”…or because you think its the ‘next natural step’…or because you just want to see what they would look/be like…or because you think it will save your relationship.  If you feel like ‘something’s missing’ but you can’t quite figure out what it is…

It’s likely your connection with your Self. Listen to Her instead.

 

The world doesn’t need more people. The world needs YOU, in your destined role, as your highest Self, doing the thing that only you are capable of doing in the way that you are capable of doing it. 

 

Now that that’s out of the way…
Let’s get back to the Thing.
Do you know your thing?
Do you know you have a thing, but you haven’t figured out what it is yet?

Has your thing been living in your mind your entire life and you’re just grown accustomed to keeping her on a shelf for ‘someday’ or ‘when you have time’?

Or has your thing been desperately screaming to get out for years and for some reason you can’t bring yourself to open the door? (That’s what mine was doing. Good times.)

There are so many ways to learn about the Thing.

If, like me, you want to put a question like “what the eff am I supposed to be doing with my life?” into Google and have it produce an instant answer…I understand completely.

Since Buzzfeed quizzes don’t get too deep, let me make a few suggestions.

If you haven’t taken the full-form real Myers-Briggs assessment, I recommend doing it.

take the official myers-briggs test

I’ve come back to this test several times over the years, and it has been useful in many ways. I’ve even had potential employers request it. Also, your results change as you change, staying relevant.

I also recommend the Gallup Strengths Finder, 

 

and the Primary and Secondary Archetype tests by Cerries Mooney.

And of course, go ahead and do a bunch of shit that you don’t like doing and work for various assholes to get an idea of what ISN’T the thing.
Wanting to re-enact any scene from Office Space, yet refraining, is good for developing self-awareness, humility and patience.
Once you’ve done all that, it’s time to listen.

Yes, LISTEN.

To your Self, to your intuition, to your soul, whatever you’ve named her.

Art by Mae Chevrette, Quote by Steve Jobs

It’s true.
You came here with a purpose. But we forget what that purpose is sometimes, and the universe leaves us a trail of bread crumbs until we remember.
If you haven’t remembered yet, that is fine. Keep reading. Your thing will come to you when it is time.

 

6 HELPFUL QUESTIONS TO ASK YOURSELF WHILE DEFINING THE THING:

If money were no concern, what would my day look like?

What do I enjoy doing more than anything? When do I lose myself?

How do I best express myself? Through words? Through food? Through art? Through helping others?

What do other people tell me I’m good at?

When do I feel most confident?

Do I like to be around people or on my own?

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