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On my way back.

I’ve been gone for awhile. Not gone gone, but definitely pulled inward. For like…the last 6 years or so.

What started as a time zone barrier in talking to my friends and family as much while I was overseas developed into a deep mental isolation that brought me through levels of myself that I didn’t know existed.

Sometimes it was dark and scary, but mostly it was beautiful and expansive.

Much of it was tied to my feelings of self-worth as they related to my sudden and unexpected dependence on my husband when his career took us to England and mine was stalled as a result.

Compound that with going into business as me, myself & I, after thinking I had my whole career lined out. Degrees. Commitments to service. Student loans out the ass.

I mean, who was I to ‘be an artist’ after so many years of work and dedication to helping others? It was who I was. How could I just start saying I was something else?

I was spinning.

The anxiety attacks had been ugly since Macedonia, and I finally recognized them as something I needed to ask for help with. Something I don’t do much.

My doc introduced me to Zoloft and the world changed. 10/10 highly recommend.

Anyway, now that we’ve been stateside for two years and the time zone barrier isn’t as much of a thing, my tendency to go inward versus touch base or catch up with a friend/family member still wins.

And I have guilt about it.

But I suppose my guilt about it doesn’t outweigh my super intense desire to create a successful business and be an example for other women who have such dreams they wish to fulfill.

I’m hoping to get better at balancing this in the coming years, but it could also be that I just don’t like to talk on the phone as much as I used to 🙂

Re-emerging after a lengthy period of isolation and inner exploration is bumpy, and can feel socially awkward at times.

But I’m working on it, and learning more about my Self constantly.

<3

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The endless search for the ‘perfect’ job

Along with art, I always had a strong desire to serve others. When I thought art school didn’t seem to be my destiny, I chose the human services path instead.

I had countless jobs, internships and volunteer positions throughout college and graduate school, and I really did love them all, but I always got restless, bored or otherwise dissatisfied about 6 months to a year in.

I had many people over the years make comments to me along the lines of ‘you don’t seem like the type that works for someone else.’

What that looked like in my head at the time was that I’d be starting my own nonprofit at some point.

After Peace Corps, I realized that wasn’t what I wanted. I had spent so many years looking for the ‘perfect’ job at the ‘perfect’ organization – one where I wouldn’t eventually grow dissatisfied. But that was never going to happen.

I needed to create my perfect job myself. So I did. You can too, trust me.

 

 

 

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Love and gratitude,

Emily <3

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find your focus.

*a follow-up to this post about time management!

I set aside the last week of December to hash out ALL my goals and my plans to reach them in 2017 and beyond.

 

With piles and stacks of notebooks, scratch paper, eNotes and the like, I started to categorize it all under the two main goals (income and reach).

Once I did this, it was super easy to take each little note, blurb and hastily scratched out idea and put it where it belonged in the greater scheme of the main goals, or if it belonged in the trash.

Setting the two main annual goals then allowed me to break everything down into what needed to be done per quarter, per month, and per week.

 

Everything was then written into the Passion Planner and/or Lisa Jacob’s Your Best Year business planner. So with room for adjustment and unexpecteds of course, the entire year is a map to the main goals.

Now that I’m a couple of weeks in on the plan, things are going really well. Productivity has definitely increased, and I feel so much more relaxed about ALL THE THINGS THERE ARE TO DO because all the things that need to happen to accomplish the goals are specific, broken down to task, and scheduled according to quarter, month and week.

Everything has it’s place in the rank of priorities, and everything that needs to be handled will be handled.

This is the most control of the overwhelm I’ve ever felt.

This is also the most focused I’ve ever felt. It’s taken me a long time to be able to really be present in any given moment, but a commitment to daily meditation has really made some huge impacts in my life – the ability to be fully present being one of them.

But the message here is that YOU have to take control of where you’re focusing your energy if you want to get to the Thing.

 

You literally and figuratively cannot rely on anyone else to create the life you want or to bring you happiness. Others can contribute in many ways, but you are responsible for your life. No one else.

 

No one is working to make your dreams come true.

You have to take the action.

YOU.

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Part 8: RESOURCES | Permission Granted : How to Create the Life You Want to Live

There are so many people and things that have helped me on this crazy entrepreneurial journey.

But the number one greatest tip I can share with you is to create or join a Mastermind.

I found mine at a live Amy Porterfield event last year, and I can’t put into words how much of a game-changer it was.

We’re a group of 7 women, all with different types of businesses, at different places in our businesses, and all completely invested in ourselves and lifting each other towards our individual goals. We all bring a range of experiences and backgrounds to the table, and it enables us to collectively approach and solve any and every business challenge we face.

I spent the first 5 years of my business in mental isolation – researching, reading, watching, learning, absorbing, implementing. I had a couple friends that I talked to about little bits, but that was it.

Having a tribe of women around you that have the same ambitious mindset and goals will take all of you to the next level.

Don’t know where to start?

Join us over in the Permission Granted community, where  you’ll find other purpose-driven women to lift you up on the journey to creating your ideal life.

You’ll find inspiration, business guidance, motivation, love, support and others who feel like their lives are not within their control – but are learning to take back their power.

The following is a living, regularly updated list of books, mentors, apps and other resources that have helped me along this journey. Every name is a link, so explore away! And if you have anything that would be great to add, contact me!

 

Books

The Confidence Code : Katty Kay

The Modern Guide to Witchcraft : Skye Alexander

#Girlboss : Sophia Amoruso

Reason for Hope : Jane Goodall

Everything by Malcolm Gladwell

The Art of Work : Jeff Goins

The War of Art : Steven Pressfield

Choice Theory : William Glasser, M.D.

Building a Story Brand : Donald Miller

Moonology : Yasmin Boland

The Power of Habit : Charles Duhigg

Art, Money & Success : Maria Brophy

High Performance Habits : Brendon Burchard

You Don’t Look Fat, You Look Crazy : Ashley Longshore

Profit First : Mike Michalowicz

Big Magic : Elizabeth Gilbert

You Are A Badass : Jen Sincero

Originals : Adam Grant

Business & Entrepreneurship

Marie Forleo

James Wedmore

Amy Porterfield

Melyssa Griffin

Donald Miller

Tracy Matthews

Jess Van Den

Jeff Goins

Kelly Rae Roberts

Spiritual & Manifestation

Denise Duffield-Thomas

Sarah Prout

Jenn Kosh

Abraham Hicks

 

Apps

Mint

Preview

Canva

Tailwind

Evernote

 

If you know of anything that would jive with this list, please comment so everyone can benefit!

 

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**I do not link to or recommend items that I myself haven’t read, used and love!**

 

 

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