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Part 2: DEFINE THE DREAM | Permission Granted : How to Create the Life You Want to Live

Before we go on, I’m going to ask an important question.

If you already have kids, then you can skip this next paragraph ūüėČ You already know about the sacrifices they require and you’re still here, nurturing that flame in your soul. I applaud you.

But if you don’t have children…do you want them? I mean REALLY want them? Because having them will cut down the time you’re able to invest in your dreams by a good 90%, for quite awhile. If you can afford help or your kids are already on the older side, this won’t be the case. I know plenty of moms that juggle it all like a boss, so obviously it’s possible.

My point is this:

Don’t have children just because society or anyone in your life has made you think you “should”…or because you think its the ‘next natural step’…or because you just want to see what they would look/be like…or because you think it will save your relationship.¬† If you feel like ‘something’s missing’ but you can’t quite figure out what it is…

It’s likely your connection with your Self. Listen to Her instead.

 

The world doesn’t need more people. The world needs YOU, in your destined role, as your highest Self, doing the thing that only you are capable of doing in the way that you are capable of doing it.¬†

 

Now¬†that¬†that’s¬†out¬†of¬†the¬†way‚Ķ
Let’s¬†get¬†back¬†to¬†the¬†Thing.
Do you know your thing?
Do¬†you¬†know¬†you¬†have¬†a¬†thing,¬†but¬†you¬†haven’t¬†figured¬†out¬†what¬†it¬†is¬†yet?

Has your thing been living in your mind your entire life and you’re just grown accustomed to keeping her on a shelf for ‘someday’ or ‘when you have time’?

Or has your thing been desperately screaming to get out for years and for some reason you can’t bring yourself to open the door? (That’s what mine was doing. Good times.)

There are so many ways to learn about the Thing.

If, like me, you want to put a question like “what the eff am I supposed to be doing with my life?” into Google and have it produce an instant answer…I understand completely.

Since Buzzfeed quizzes don’t get too deep, let me make a few suggestions.

If¬†you¬†haven’t¬†taken¬†the¬†full-form¬†real¬†Myers-Briggs¬†assessment,¬†I¬†recommend¬†doing¬†it.

take the official myers-briggs test

I’ve come back to this test several times over the years, and it has been useful in many ways. I’ve even had potential employers request it. Also, your results change as you change, staying relevant.

I also recommend the Gallup Strengths Finder, 

 

and the Primary and Secondary Archetype tests by Cerries Mooney.

And¬†of¬†course,¬†go¬†ahead¬†and¬†do¬†a¬†bunch¬†of¬†shit¬†that¬†you¬†don’t¬†like¬†doing¬†and¬†work¬†for¬†various¬†assholes¬†to¬†get¬†an¬†idea¬†of¬†what¬†ISN’T¬†the¬†thing.
Wanting to re-enact any scene from Office Space, yet refraining, is good for developing self-awareness, humility and patience.
Once¬†you’ve¬†done¬†all¬†that,¬†it’s¬†time¬†to¬†listen.

Yes, LISTEN.

To¬†your¬†Self,¬†to¬†your¬†intuition,¬†to¬†your¬†soul,¬†whatever¬†you’ve¬†named¬†her.

Art by Mae Chevrette, Quote by Steve Jobs

It’s true.
You came here with a purpose. But we forget what that purpose is sometimes, and the universe leaves us a trail of bread crumbs until we remember.
If you haven’t remembered yet, that is fine. Keep reading. Your thing will come to you when it is time.

 

6 HELPFUL QUESTIONS TO ASK YOURSELF WHILE DEFINING THE THING:

If money were no concern, what would my day look like?

What do I enjoy doing more than anything? When do I lose myself?

How do I best express myself? Through words? Through food? Through art? Through helping others?

What¬†do¬†other¬†people¬†tell¬†me¬†I’m¬†good¬†at?

When do I feel most confident?

Do I like to be around people or on my own?

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How to be a Career-Driven Military Spouse (& not lose your mind)

Marrying my husband was the best decision I’ve ever made.

But I had no idea what I was about to experience as a woman with my own career track already established making the transition to military wife life.

For the first year, he was still stationed in Arizona and I had no problem finding the type of job I wanted in my field. Then we got orders to England! Which of course we were ecstatic about, and I had grand fantasies of working for some rad nonprofit organization in London. But then we got there and realized the actual location and surroundings were much more remote than we had imagined.

I quickly learned that job opportunities were slim, low-paying, and working in my actual field wasn’t even possible. I was super fortunate that a loosely-related to my experience position was available on base when we arrived, so I snatched that up and started building an Etsy shop in my spare time and running group painting parties and private painting lessons. With the low wages the base paid, I was soon making almost as much with my side art hustle.

So after a year, I put in my notice to give 100% to growing my art business.

The following 6 years has been a rollercoaster of development – deep dives into teaching myself online marketing, absorbing all things business and entrepreneurship, going within to battle the demons of self-doubt, self-worth, mindset blocks and fear. Physical and mental isolation, tears in the bathtub, in between points of such joy, excitement and the high of limitless possibility.

I’ve learned a ton, and I know I’m not the only woman out here that has sacrificed and is (still) navigating their own career and ambitions in order to be with the person they love.

So I wanted to give you all the things that might save you some time and help you on your own journey, and also create a little space to make sure you know you’re not alone!

This lil’ guide poured out of me in a tea room in England one day when I was waiting for a meeting to start. I had no idea it was going to turn into this 30-page eBook, and I’m so happy to share it with you!

Once you download the book (it’s free!), you’ll get the link to join the community too!

If you know anyone that might benefit from this, please share it with them too!

All women maximizing their potential = a beautiful world.

 

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On my way back.

I’ve been gone for awhile. Not gone gone, but definitely pulled inward. For like…the last 6 years or so.

What started as a time zone barrier in talking to my friends and family as much while I was overseas developed into a deep mental isolation that brought me through levels of myself that I didn’t know existed.

Sometimes it was dark and scary, but mostly it was beautiful and expansive.

Much of it was tied to my feelings of self-worth as they related to my sudden and unexpected dependence on my husband when his career took us to England and mine was stalled as a result.

Compound that with going into business as me, myself & I, after thinking I had my whole career lined out. Degrees. Commitments to service. Student loans out the ass.

I mean, who was I to ‘be an artist’ after so many years of work and dedication to helping others? It was who I was. How could I just start saying I was something else?

I was spinning.

The anxiety attacks had been ugly since Macedonia, and I finally recognized them as something I needed to ask for help with. Something I don’t do much.

My doc introduced me to Zoloft and the world changed. 10/10 highly recommend.

Anyway, now that we’ve been stateside for two years and the time zone barrier isn’t as much of a thing, my tendency to go inward versus touch base or catch up with a friend/family member still wins.

And I have guilt about it.

But I suppose my guilt about it doesn’t outweigh my super intense desire to create a successful business and be an example for other women who have such dreams they wish to fulfill.

I’m hoping to get better at balancing this in the coming years, but it could also be that I just don’t like to talk on the phone as much as I used to ūüôā

Re-emerging after a lengthy period of isolation and inner exploration is bumpy, and can feel socially awkward at times.

But I’m working on it, and learning more about my Self constantly.

<3

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Vermont Bride Feature!

I finally got my hands on the newest edition of #VermontBride so I could see our feature in person! What a beautiful publication, I’m so honored to have my work in these pages! Mei Lin Barral Photography Рincredible work, you’re so amazing, thank you again!

 

Click any of the photos to personalize YOUR Lyric Scarf!

word scarf, book scarf, lyric scarf, infinity scarf
Lyric scarf in Wine. Photography by Mei Lin Barral Photography.
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new work : moondust, constance, live & august prints!

“Constance” is a sky-high view of the Olympic Mountains from Anderson to Iron peaks. A highly-textured and monochrome piece with layers of gold leaf, iridescence and acrylic.

 

 

“Moondust”

My inspiration is always drawn from nature, and the past year has been a deep introspection into our relationship with the moon and her phases and cycles. We have much to learn from paying attention to this and learning to ‘go with the flow’ rather than against it.

 

 

“August”

The Climax Bound Collection is focused on abstraction.

For me, abstraction comes from within.  When reaching those physical and mental peaks in life, I see color; wrestling, dancing, flowing color.  I want you to strive for those personal peaks in your life as well. I want to inspire you to seek your maximum potential, and to feel your connection with everyone and everything in order to reach that potential.

My abstract pieces are a journey to create my vision through the use of textures, materials and pigment. I encourage you to touch them, and to feel and absorb the energy that went into the piece from the state of inspiration through to fruition.

 

 

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Quality over quantity.

You believe in quality over quantity.

You prefer the silence of the forest to the noise of the city.

You’d rather be traveling than shopping.

Your purchases and choices are a reflection of you, and you want to create a home & wardrobe that’s a reflection of who you are.

I feel you.

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It’s been a long journey from there to here.

You may remember at the beginning of winter, when I posted this epic shot:

This shoot is something that had been living in my mind for SO long.

When childhood friend and epic creative Amanda Dunn and I started chatting¬†one day, I knew she would bring my vision to life x 1000. She definitely did just that, and I’m so pumped to share these with you.

So much has changed in my business since I started, and this shoot signifies an important piece for me.

I have a vision of bringing purpose-driven women together to lift each other, support each other, to share in each other’s personal uprising.

The energy that day was amazing, and has caused ripples that continue to grow.

There is much to come on the horizon, a shit-ton of writing that I’ve been stacking up that fear has been preventing me from publishing. But this is the year. The year of the rising female. And I want nothing more than to lift as many women as possible toward maximizing their potential.

I’m working on building an intimate space for my fellow purpose-driven sisters, so keep your eye on this spot for details in the near future <3

 

You’ll be seeing the beautiful results of this shoot over the coming weeks and you can check out a few more on my Home¬†and About pages for now and you can SHOP LEGGINGS here.

So gratefully,

Emily <3

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new work : the majestics collection

 

 

 

 

Growing up in Northwest Montana, I was surrounded by mountains on all sides. I didn’t realize what a privilege this was until I was at least 18. Now, there are few things I find more beautiful than a craggy, snow-peaked mountain range.